The mystery that is my second daughter?

Elizabeth by name, she has always been an odd character and that has been exasperated by marrying an even odder one!
They married in 2001 whilst we were living in Saltford and things seemed markedly to change from that point on.
Whereas I had always seemed to get along with Brendan up to then it seemed that when married things went from tentative control to total and he became more standoffish, more remote, more distant! See previous post on this subject.
When we lived in Wales I think Elizabeth actually came to the house in Trevethin once, maybe twice at the most and every other time we had contact it was either we went to their house or met at a neutral setting, venues such as St. Fagans I remember with some fondness.
Since they married it has been very much one-way traffic in that if we want to see them we had to go to them or meet up with them on mutual ground or at family occasions such as funerals or weddings.
At family funerals some time ago (Auntie Bibs and Andrews) and the way we were treated at arms length there and the way that my family were treated as a totally separate entity at Elizabeth's 50th birthday celebrations even to the point of having one bar-be-que for "my family" and one for "Brendan's family and our friends" as though my children are tainted or infected? I decided anyway that enough was enough and I was not prepared to put up with this situation any longer and I told Elizabeth as much which went down like a lead balloon.
I am no longer chasing around after her and if she wants to see me she will need to make an effort and come here to our flat. I know it is beneath her husband to do so but with my failing health and loss of patience with them I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!

Well after a few months on Tuesday I had a phone call from Elizabeth suggesting that she would like to see me. I have suggested she come here to see me but she would not readily agree to that as I presume she has to run it past Brendan so we now wait and see.
I am hoping it is not going to be until after the visit to Derriford as I do not know if my heart will stand the stress at the moment? I guess I can only say this is to be continued!